The Problem Behind The Silence..

Helloooooo peeps!
How's it been?Hope this post meets you in good health!*wink*
And soooo...a few days ago,I got chatting with a friend who complained to me about his wife's silence recently,especially on issues or discussions that would have usually aroused her vocality!
To my amusement,he felt relieved by her recent change of behaviour...as opposed to when they would have noisy arguments waking up the neighbours every other night!*sighs*

Hmmmm...Well..as usual..I got inspired to write a post on this*smiles*

It's quite interesting to see that when a couple are having an argument...a partner's silence is often mistaken for stupidity..naivety or lack of knowledge...even a subtle agreement to whatever the outcome of the situation is...and a whole lot more of misinterpretations!*smh*


But guess what...
More often than not...the partner is silent or slow to respond for other reasons that a lot of people dont realise or for some that do...they just choose to ignore or pretend like they don't know.*smiles*

Lemme put it this way...In a friendship or relationship,in the course of a misunderstanding...if your partner is silent,it is not because he/she agrees totally with your opinion...He/She respects you enough not to bother arguing..infact he/she might have even stopped respecting you and doesn't even see the need why they should waste their energy or time arguing with you!

As a matter of fact...At the point where your partner starts becoming silent or slow to respond...you should be more worried than happy or relieved!
Infact, be VERY worried...especially if he/she has been very vocal in the relationship before now!
Don't even kid yourself thinking your partner has finally become ur love puppet! *rolling my small eyes*

It's at that point that you should even begin to think deeper as to why the he/she is not responding!
It's at that point that you should realise the problem you are talking about ,might not even be the REAL problem but something else!*sighs*

Instead of jumping up for joy at having a quiet and submissive partner, you should be more concerned over the fact that the communication has become one-sided and definitely needs more than silence from you or your partner!
Afterall communication is both ways before it's regarded as a successful one!

On that note,as I drop my pen on sharing my 2cents...the next time you feel happy with yourself and singing Hallelujah cos your partner has become silent more often in the relationship...be sure to ask yourself if you are SUCCESSFULLY communicating in the relationship...which is one of the strongest factors of a successful relationship!

Till my next post...live..laugh..love..and of cos..stay blessed!

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