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Whose Reward Are You Really Seeking?

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Some call it charity..Some call it philanthropy and Some simply call it helping the poor/less privileged. Now what gives me concern about this act recently is the fact that this act has become something that the giver feels justified in doing,only after he has publicised his generosity or the extent of his largesse! With the desire to assist in the welfare of the less privileged or donate generously to the needy, why is it so important to call a photographer,take pictures,get on social media platforms and post each picture showing how you presented cartons of drinks,food or beverages so the whole world can see you as the ever-generous giver or the certified philanthropist!*smh* What really changed from the days when the giver is open handed and the whole world doesnt have to know about his every act of benevolence? Am I wrong in thinking charity is supposed to be an act of selflessness where the giver gives out of compassion without seeking praise ,validation or a reward from
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Speaking Up..!

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It seems a pretty difficult task for some of us to voice out our opinions on our beliefs, values or even opinons! I think it appears more difficult when we are dealing with family,friends or people we care about because of the fear of being hurtful to them. At some point we even compromise our values or tailor our opinions just to avoid confrontations or endless hours of unproductive arguments! Truth be told...i am not a passive person by nature but i realised that in the bid to avoid lengthy conflicts,i just conveniently shy away sometimes from imposing my opinion or belief on the issue in contention!*sighs* Funny enough,i got so angry with myself sometimes for not having the willpower to aggressively stand up for my opinion and making the other person accept my views,regardless of the consequences!*smh* I came to realise that sometimes(if not,most times),you have to possess that inner strength that allows you to be truthful not just to yourself,but to others and damn the con
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Do You Have A Clue..??

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I have observed for a long while now that a lotta people see the forms of social media as a way to expose their negativity,rather than a medium for productivity! I will focus on Instagram because i noticed facebook users have a somewhat better connection to whoever they follow..family,friends,colleagues etc.Most times,people connected on facebook have either met at some point in life (through school,work,church or even events),so it's only if you accept such a friendship that a person connects with you on facebook! Now back to instagram..*smiles* How do you insult or lash out at someone you don't know,have never met..or would never even meet? How do your words of bad judgement help the person in a better way or any way? Do you even have a clue about what the person is going through,battling with silently? Does being a follower give you the right to spill out words of hate because the person followed has commited an offence or is a celebrity?? Actually,some would say the
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Someone's Watching..!

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On an early humid morning,I stroll out of my house going for my usual morning walks,a lady in her late 50's greets me with a smile. In my usual apprehension towards strangers,I respond with a cool,questioning smile! I slowly close my gate,giving her the opportunity to keep walking but i noticed she slowed down her pace. I sense this and am wondering "Hmmm...am in no mood for a chat this morning especially with today's weather that isn't exactly generous with some breeze to enable me kill some kilometres!"*sighs* Anyways,i proceed with her still walking in front of me and after a few minutes,she turns back to walk towards me! "Hello!I know we haven't met but i normally see you take your morning walks on some mornings." Am like "Ooh..ok"..with a smile. She goes on to tell me how she has never really been interested in body fitness or workouts,but when she kept seeing me it occured to her that she could easily take morning walks with
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Don't Be A Hypocrite...

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About 3months ago,my friends and I were sitting in a shop, waiting on the shop attendant. My friend starts telling us about how he did a job for some guy a few months back and the guy hasn't paid him for his service up till now,claiming he didn't have money to pay him yet! What got my friend mad at the guy ,was the fact that the guy had the nerve to travel out and he kept posting pictures on Instagram, shopping in expensive stores,showing off the shopping bags and tagging "Life is good!" Imagine that!!*smh* Before i could even get outta my shock and stop myself from a very loud laugh,my other friend got up shouting "Waaaat!What kinda nonsense is that?How can people be so heartless?How can you owe someone money and you have the heart to do that?How can he be so shameless?bla bla bla!! I must say..i was pissed myself but i calmed him down,telling him to keep reminding the guy with calls, messages ,visits..and hopefully the guy will pay soon! Now fast forwar
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A Model or A Role Model?

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While growing up..i knew it was a good thing to have Role models,apart from my parents who did an excellent job in that regard!*smiles* People I admired...from all walks of life ranging from Professors,Doctors,reputable Businessmen to Celebrities,Artistes,etc. These are people who you should not only admire their success and aspire to attain yours, but people who have qualities worth emulating! As years went by,i extended my list of role models,picking them out of their profound knowledge in businesses,their eagerness to help people succeed by being true leaders and not bosses,their way of life or even how they manage life's challenges! You're probably wondering why this is important..right? Wellll..i felt this was quite necessary because Role models set goals for you and try to make you as good as they are..or even better! Now bringing you back to the present..i look up certain people,especially women who i think are worthy of being Role models and slightly immerse my
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The Unexpected Helper..!

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Most women admire you but would rather keep the compliments to themselves!Infact,some see you as their competition,even when you're not aware!*smiles* Till this moment,i can't specifically tell you why some of them behave this way but trust me,it's an amusing observation!LOL! Am guessing some men do this too,albeit for some other reasons..not out of sheer jealousy or insecurity, but for more reasonable reasons!*wink* Anyways,this reminded me of an experience i had not too long ago with a fellow neighbour. Apparently she had a car problem on the highway,a few miles from our neighbourhood. I was driving back home and as i passed a parked car,i looked and saw her standing by the car,looking all worried and flushed! I sensed it was car trouble so i did a reverse and approached her. She recognised me and i sensed her embarassment!Not because her car had a fault but because i drove back to offer her some assistance! She is someone who sees me almost everyday in the neigh
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