5 Tips On Honest Friendship

At some point in our lives,we have had squabbles with friends who we thought were mean..insensitive or even jealous just because of their honesty towards us.
It's easy to be misconstrued when one is honest because a lotta times,we like to hear only what we wanna hear!
Am quite guilty of this though*sighs*

This post came to mind because I ran into a friend today at a shop and we were quite close years ago but the friendship changed after an eventful argument we had!
I gave my opinion to something she wanted to know about and she misconstrued it as me being mean/jealous!*now that's funny thinking about it now*

Anyways ..coming back to the post..so I just wanna quickly share this so you don't lose a friend out of fear of the truth or misjudgment!

1)If u want a true friend,be ready to embrace all tenets of friendship otherwise u will have a fake friendship expecting your friend to always be a sycophant or your puppet!

2)True friendship means telling the truth so don't be afraid to do that!You shouldn't be afraid to admit when you don't like something...just be sure to put it nicely in the best possible way,rather than lie/be passive!

3)When you filter your conversations,being scared about saying a particular thing,that's not being 100%honest and that's definitely not true friendship!(Read No.2 again)

4)Your moral standards says a lot about your personality and definitely has a say in your friendship!
If your friend knows that you know your right clearly from wrong,there's bound to be some level of respect that will be attached to whatever opinion/advice you have to give!

5)Whether you like it or not,the law of reciprocation is paramount in friendship!
If you wanna say things as they truly are to your friend,be ready to hear the truth someday too!


When that day comes,Don't get angry/hurt,just remember that friendship builds and there would always be arguments but the misunderstandings should lead to meaningful results..and of cos a stronger friendship bond!




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