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Some call it charity..Some call it philanthropy and Some simply call it helping the poor/less privileged. Now what gives me concern about this act recently is the fact that this act has become something that the giver feels justified in doing,only after he has publicised his generosity or the extent of his largesse! With the desire to assist in the welfare of the less privileged or donate generously to the needy, why is it so important to call a photographer,take pictures,get on social media platforms and post each picture showing how you presented cartons of drinks,food or beverages so the whole world can see you as the ever-generous giver or the certified philanthropist!*smh* What really changed from the days when the giver is open handed and the whole world doesnt have to know about his every act of benevolence? Am I wrong in thinking charity is supposed to be an act of selflessness where the giver gives out of compassion without seeking praise ,validation or a reward from ...

It seems a pretty difficult task for some of us to voice out our opinions on our beliefs, values or even opinons! I think it appears more difficult when we are dealing with family,friends or people we care about because of the fear of being hurtful to them. At some point we even compromise our values or tailor our opinions just to avoid confrontations or endless hours of unproductive arguments! Truth be told...i am not a passive person by nature but i realised that in the bid to avoid lengthy conflicts,i just conveniently shy away sometimes from imposing my opinion or belief on the issue in contention!*sighs* Funny enough,i got so angry with myself sometimes for not having the willpower to aggressively stand up for my opinion and making the other person accept my views,regardless of the consequences!*smh* I came to realise that sometimes(if not,most times),you have to possess that inner strength that allows you to be truthful not just to yourself,but to others and damn the con...

I have observed for a long while now that a lotta people see the forms of social media as a way to expose their negativity,rather than a medium for productivity! I will focus on Instagram because i noticed facebook users have a somewhat better connection to whoever they follow..family,friends,colleagues etc.Most times,people connected on facebook have either met at some point in life (through school,work,church or even events),so it's only if you accept such a friendship that a person connects with you on facebook! Now back to instagram..*smiles* How do you insult or lash out at someone you don't know,have never met..or would never even meet? How do your words of bad judgement help the person in a better way or any way? Do you even have a clue about what the person is going through,battling with silently? Does being a follower give you the right to spill out words of hate because the person followed has commited an offence or is a celebrity?? Actually,some would say the...

On an early humid morning,I stroll out of my house going for my usual morning walks,a lady in her late 50's greets me with a smile. In my usual apprehension towards strangers,I respond with a cool,questioning smile! I slowly close my gate,giving her the opportunity to keep walking but i noticed she slowed down her pace. I sense this and am wondering "Hmmm...am in no mood for a chat this morning especially with today's weather that isn't exactly generous with some breeze to enable me kill some kilometres!"*sighs* Anyways,i proceed with her still walking in front of me and after a few minutes,she turns back to walk towards me! "Hello!I know we haven't met but i normally see you take your morning walks on some mornings." Am like "Ooh..ok"..with a smile. She goes on to tell me how she has never really been interested in body fitness or workouts,but when she kept seeing me it occured to her that she could easily take morning walks with...

About 3months ago,my friends and I were sitting in a shop, waiting on the shop attendant. My friend starts telling us about how he did a job for some guy a few months back and the guy hasn't paid him for his service up till now,claiming he didn't have money to pay him yet! What got my friend mad at the guy ,was the fact that the guy had the nerve to travel out and he kept posting pictures on Instagram, shopping in expensive stores,showing off the shopping bags and tagging "Life is good!" Imagine that!!*smh* Before i could even get outta my shock and stop myself from a very loud laugh,my other friend got up shouting "Waaaat!What kinda nonsense is that?How can people be so heartless?How can you owe someone money and you have the heart to do that?How can he be so shameless?bla bla bla!! I must say..i was pissed myself but i calmed him down,telling him to keep reminding the guy with calls, messages ,visits..and hopefully the guy will pay soon! Now fast forwar...

While growing up..i knew it was a good thing to have Role models,apart from my parents who did an excellent job in that regard!*smiles* People I admired...from all walks of life ranging from Professors,Doctors,reputable Businessmen to Celebrities,Artistes,etc. These are people who you should not only admire their success and aspire to attain yours, but people who have qualities worth emulating! As years went by,i extended my list of role models,picking them out of their profound knowledge in businesses,their eagerness to help people succeed by being true leaders and not bosses,their way of life or even how they manage life's challenges! You're probably wondering why this is important..right? Wellll..i felt this was quite necessary because Role models set goals for you and try to make you as good as they are..or even better! Now bringing you back to the present..i look up certain people,especially women who i think are worthy of being Role models and slightly immerse my...

Most women admire you but would rather keep the compliments to themselves!Infact,some see you as their competition,even when you're not aware!*smiles* Till this moment,i can't specifically tell you why some of them behave this way but trust me,it's an amusing observation!LOL! Am guessing some men do this too,albeit for some other reasons..not out of sheer jealousy or insecurity, but for more reasonable reasons!*wink* Anyways,this reminded me of an experience i had not too long ago with a fellow neighbour. Apparently she had a car problem on the highway,a few miles from our neighbourhood. I was driving back home and as i passed a parked car,i looked and saw her standing by the car,looking all worried and flushed! I sensed it was car trouble so i did a reverse and approached her. She recognised me and i sensed her embarassment!Not because her car had a fault but because i drove back to offer her some assistance! She is someone who sees me almost everyday in the neigh...

In as much as we are human and tend to seek advice occasionally when things happen or are going wrong,one has to be wise to know when to filter such advice or suggestion! I recently read a social media post from a lady who adviced married ladies that have cheating husbands,to stop fretting about infidelity/walking out of their marriages...but instead they should supply their husbands with enough condoms to protect them from sexual calamities! Yessss! Did i hear you say Waaaat??..or you are still opening your eyes/mouth in shock? Yeah i know...i was pretty shocked too so i can imagine!*smh* At that point my thoughts were caught between whether i was from another planet or the world's changing right before my eyes and i just refuse to see it??Hmmmm*smh again* ..then i went ahead in the course of disgust to read the post further,which talked about a wife not leaving her marriage no matter what , for other single ladies who might want to take over,unless there is physical abuse f...

Most people feel anxious or depressed at times. Losing a loved one, getting fired from a job, going through a divorce, and other difficult situations can lead a person to feel sad, lonely, scared, nervous, or even anxious. These feelings are normal reactions to stress in life. But some people experience these feelings daily or nearly daily for no apparent reason, making it difficult to carry on with normal, everyday functioning. These people may have an anxiety disorder, depression, or even both! Do you know that when you're feeling down about everything,irritable over petty things,unexcited about what should ordinarily make you laugh..etc,u just might be experiencing signs of depression? Yesss..it could be mild depression and then when the feelings are waaaay deeper as to erupt thoughts of self-harm or suicide,then we are talking severe depression! To be honest,i think it's quite easy to fall into a state of mild depression when you find yourself in a circumstance or e...

Happy Sunday peeps! Embracing a new week and new opportunities not because it is valentine's day soon or Lovers week but because its the 2nd month in the year already!Yessss..i said that!LOL! I know i shldnt get it twisted..Love Is A Beautiful Thing but if u ask me..i think Self-Love is more important,especially at a time you expect to be loved just the way you love someone. Self-Love helps you through such moments of disappointment!It makes you realise your worth no matter how you are treated. It doesnt make you angry or bitter when your love isn't reciprocated but teaches you that you can love and be loved even in your most unexpected moments,by the least expected person! But then again,many of us love and are loved back but some love, thinking they are loved back in return,not knowing they could even be in denial of a failed love relationship..afraid to smell the morning coffee!*sighs* That's where Self-Love reminds you that you don't have to keep taking bull...

Haaaaapy New Year peeps!!!Yasss we made it!!!Welcome to 2017!! Ok before I go on about why I am so excited to be part of the privileged ones to witness this beautiful year...lemme give you a little insight about how my "brown" Christmas turned "white" in the end! LOL! So few days to Christmas,I went shopping for a month's supply of groceries,etc because I kinda felt with the recession and all,I shouldn't rely on the usual flow of hampers usually sent!*sigh* Wellll...from nowhere,there comes a big,beautifully packed hamper...and another and another!!!OMG! I couldn't believe it*big smile* As if that wasn't enough,I got calls inviting me for hook-ups,hangouts,a Christmas party..and another one!! I was like Waaaat!! So all my brooding about a boring,brown Christmas just vanished into thin air in the twinkle of an eye??? God is really awesome!! Soooo yes...I had a lovely,white Christmas which I didn't plan..or envisage and at the end of all ...

Happy New Month peeps!!How y'all doin? Hope good! It's been a pretty long minute but I guess we know how life gets in the way*wink* Anyways,in the course of my thoughts and few experiences over the last few days, the thought kept popping in my head.."Just keep moving!" It is about 30days to the end of 2016. We thank God for getting us this far. Many were alive,  hale and hearty this time last year,  even last week and are no more today. Sadly many of us have lost friends,  colleagues, neighbours, coworkers or even loved ones in the course of this year. I choose to say I am not just lucky but I am blessed and so are you..if you are reading this! Are you still wondering why I just said that? Ok lemme break it down some more..*smiles* Having realised we are coming to the year's end,some people might want to beat themselves up for not achieving what they resolved to do at the beginning or even middle of this year..but guess what? The fact that you can eve...

Helloooo peeps!Hope you're doing ok! I'm sure you are wondering who the healer or analyst is?Hahahaha! Well...it's the title and function of the amazing Zodiac sign called Virgo!People who are born between Aug 23 and Sept 22 fall under this interesting sign! This is certainly not just about the Zodiac sign..Virgo. It's just a post I decided to write about while celebrating the Virgo season and the interesting qualities people under this sign possess...of cos the main reason being that I am Virgo and my birthday was September7th !  LOL! Even though you aren't a Virgo,you just might have a sibling, friend or colleague who is ..or infact your partner might be Virgo..so dont run off cos you might learn a thing or 2*wink* I know I have always had this issue of not feeling sleepy early enough at night and this dates back to my school days. I would always wanna run around doing stuff during the day and then settle down at night to read my books till morning!...

Is there really a difference between one's personality and one's attitude?? Welll..to be honest I think there's quite a difference between the two. Thinking about it now...there are hot-tempered peeps who don't surprise you with their temper so when they blow up..at least it's something you already expect and you waive it off knowing that's how they are(their personality)!...But the quick-tempered peeps could be a little different because the outburst just comes from nowhere right in the middle of a discussion..leaving u shocked and speechless like a statue(their attitude)!!LOL!*smh* Funny enough,I think everyone's attitude could differ at anytime... but what makes the difference is what makes you upset..or suddenly angry ,how you express your anger/how often..and of course..to whom!(which is the reason why personality and attitude become confusing). More often than not,this confusion between personality and attitude happens in relationships or friend...

Sitting on my bed on a lazy Saturday morning...am reminiscing and thinking to myself.....Hmmmm...Just like a few other aged sayings like "The Evil That Men Do Live After Them"...the saying used as my Post title seems not to have that weighty effect I grew up with! There was also a recent controversy concerning an advice given by a well-known preacher advising singles on marriage partners ,which would have been more agreeable with the singles populace back then because it was a norm for a wife-to-be to know how to cook, to be a complete package and for a husband-to-be to have a steady income stream, was definitely top of the list! But hmmm...with the change in millennium times evolving with a lot of woman empowerment,gender equality,bread-winner wives...etc...that kinda advice requiring a woman to be a good cook before a suitor can see her possessing wifey qualities ..cannot be given so much applause..in these times...If u ask me. Naaaa*smh**sighs* Wellll...anyways..I com...

Helloooooo peeps! How's it been?Hope this post meets you in good health!*wink* And soooo...a few days ago,I got chatting with a friend who complained to me about his wife's silence recently,especially on issues or discussions that would have usually aroused her vocality! To my amusement,he felt relieved by her recent change of behaviour...as opposed to when they would have noisy arguments waking up the neighbours every other night!*sighs* Hmmmm...Well..as usual..I got inspired to write a post on this*smiles* It's quite interesting to see that when a couple are having an argument...a partner's silence is often mistaken for stupidity..naivety or lack of knowledge...even a subtle agreement to whatever the outcome of the situation is...and a whole lot more of misinterpretations!*smh* But guess what... More often than not...the partner is silent or slow to respond for other reasons that a lot of people dont realise or for some that do...they just choose to ign...

Hello peeps!! And so in Nigeria today,(May 27th)..It is that time of the Year to mark the Children’s Day celebration. I can never get tired of repeating how children are not just unexplainable bundles of joy but a great blessing from God. In so many ways,messages are passed physically and spiritually through them..even in their innocence and that's what makes them magical! For those who can relate,the early stages of sharing moments with them..that's between New-borns and toddlers,could be quite tasking.. ..And as a parent,you sit asking yourself when you are gonna start enjoying the fruits of your labour! LOL! Wellll...trust me..u'd be amazed how time flies with kids growing up and before you realise..they are all grown up getting ready to leave your house and move on! *sighs* So why not enjoy those "tasking moments" smiling to yourself and say ..."This is just a phase". Welll..for those who can relate to the scenario of havin...